O Learned and Devoted Servants of God, [August 25, 2012] Several devotees are posing a
problem on the concept of equally enjoying the happy and unhappy scenes in the
life like the sweet and hot dishes in the meals or like the happy and unhappy
scenes in a cinema. The enjoyment of the scenes in the cinema may be different
from the enjoyment of the sweet and hot dishes in the meals. In the cinema, the
happy and unhappy scenes roll alternatively, but, those are related to the
story of somebody else. In the case of meals, you are directly eating the sweet
and hot dishes. The enjoyment of sweet and hot dishes can be the exact simile to the
enjoyment of happy and unhappy scenes in one’s own life. The reason is
that in both these cases, the enjoyer is directly involved. In the case of
cinema, the enjoyer is not directly involved because the scenes are related to
somebody else in the story. Therefore, as you have grown, you have become
capable of enjoying sweet and hot dishes in the meals. In the childhood, which
is the beginning stage of the life, you might have felt difficulty in enjoying
the hot dishes and you enjoyed the sweet dishes only. The elders start giving
hot dishes to the child in the childhood itself so that the child will not be
bored by sweets in course of time if only sweets are continued. In the case of
continuing the sweets, the child will never like any sweet in its life even
after becoming adult. In course of time, you have started tasting the hot
dishes introduced by elders with great reluctance and inconvenience. But, as
time proceeded, you have overcome the reluctance and inconvenience in tasting
the hot dishes. After sometime, you have developed the taste for hot dishes
also and slowly you have started enjoying the hot dishes like the sweets.
The concept in our issue arises from this simile
itself. The concept is that you may develop reluctance and inconvenience to the
unhappy scenes in the beginning, but, in course of time, this reluctance turned
into liking and the inconvenience turned into attraction. Not only the hot
dishes, any worst material like the sour tobacco, sour wine etc., also develop
reluctance and inconvenience in the beginning. But, after sometime, people
become addicted to these materials to such extent that they cannot live without
tasting these materials! Therefore, coming to the actual concept, you
may have reluctance and inconvenience to the unhappy scenes in the beginning
for sometime as you had the same to hot dishes in your childhood. But,
after sometime, you will enjoy the unhappy scenes also in the life. The
continuous happy scenes will certainly bore you and lead to permanent
unhappiness. If you eat the sweets continuously for sometime, you will never
taste the sweet again in your life time! Without tasting anything, you will get
bored and such state itself is the state of unhappiness. Hence, the unhappiness
is inevitable. Instead of developing reluctance to the inevitable situations,
it is better to enjoy the inevitable situation. By avoiding the unhappy scene
always, you cannot get rid of it since continuous happiness also results in
unhappiness only. Since the unhappiness is inevitable, better to enjoy
it so that you can maintain the state of continuous happiness in the life. This
continuous happiness is called as bliss, which is the divine state of God. In
fact, God is continuously enjoying the unhappy and happy scenes by involving
Himself directly by coming to this world as human incarnations continuously.
The Gita says that you can achieve anything by
practice (Abhyasena tu…). This
practice can be implemented in the beginning stage of facing the unhappy scenes
so that in course of time, you will start enjoying the unhappy scenes also.
Anyway, you have to start tasting the unhappy scene one day or other. In such
case, why to postpone? If you face the unhappy scene now itself,
start facing it and try to enjoy it, instead of trying to avoid it by praying
God. Realized souls never pray God to avoid the problems and
difficulties in the life. The unhappy scene acts as interval between two happy
scenes. An unhappy scene is like tasting the sour pickle between two sweets.
The sour pickle tasted in the interval gives you the real taste of the sweet
once again. If you taste the second sweet after the first sweet, the second
sweet cannot be enjoyed. This is the reason for the elder people eating the
sweet and hot items alternatively in the meals. After facing some unhappy
scenes in your lifetime, you will certainly develop the taste of enjoying the
unhappy scenes so that you will enjoy both the sweet and hot scenes in the life
alternatively without any inconvenience and reluctance.
At the lotus feet of Shri Datta Swami
-Prasad